According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), there are about 464,000 rape or sexual assaults in the United States every year. Despite the awareness of sexual assaults and its prevalence, most assaults still go unreported. Worse than that, many victims never open up to anyone about their trauma. "Magnitude 8" is a poem that captures the experience of a woman who is shaken by sexual trauma, as well as the unnerving experience of a loved one whom she confides in while working through the misplaced guilt and shame. 

Reoccurring thoughts that nest fear, guilt/blame, and shame/humiliation can be overcome through practices that help people develop self-identity and self-worth (e.g., utilizing self-compassion by treating yourself with the care you extend to your loved ones, celebrating personal strengths and accomplishments, reclaiming self-control by setting boundaries, and reframing your story). I wrote this poem to break the figurative tape that those impacted by sexual trauma generally have on their mouths. I wrote this poem to support uplifting and well-informed conversations. Having a safe space to speak truth can facilitate healing. 

Providing Support

It is normal to listen to a loved one in pain and rush to intervene. When someone is discussing physical trauma, it is essential to listen with no interruption, no judgment, and no pressure. It is okay not to know what to do; the key is that you respect the boundaries of the person sharing pain, letting the person lead the conversation and offering emotional support rather than solutions. Support the person through his or her journey toward healing by being a reliable, empathic presence, checking in later, being patient, maintaining confidentiality, and suggesting - not mandating - the idea of professional, specialized support.

Getting Support

Because it is uncomfortable for people to discuss sexual trauma, it is important that safe, supportive spaces continually be maintained and developed. Talking to someone who specializes in trauma is very beneficial to the trauma survivor and the trusted confidant when processing the trauma and working to best heal. Remember that you are not alone. You are loved, and you have a team of people who want to love you past the pain.

Crisis Helplines and Support

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (USA):
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
Call 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)
Available 24/7, confidential support, and connection to local resources.

• Crisis Text Line:
Text HOME to 741741 (USA)
Confidential text support for those in crisis, including sexual trauma survivors.

• The National Domestic Violence Hotline:
Call 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
24/7 support for those experiencing any form of intimate partner violence or sexual trauma.